Good morning! It’s another Monday. Find some good in it!
This actually reminds me of my author chat with Leenie Brown and Zoe Burton last Saturday. Our topic was “distractions” and we ended the discussion with the idea that living mindfully and intentionally looking for the good in each day and remembering your focus every day will help redirect your attention. I could get distracted by a Facebook post but no…that’s not my goal today. My goal is to write 1500 words. I could relive the horrors of a bad morning but no…the good that happened this day was that I was able to sit and write for the first time in a week.
It’s so simple and yet so powerful. Tell me about some of the good in your day!
Here’s the video I mentioned! You might have to join our Facebook group called Longbourn Literary Society.
With school starting soon, I feel like it’s a good time to re-evaluate what I’m doing on the blog and what changes I should make. This is timely given the author chat between me, Leenie Brown, and Zoe Burton last week on the topic of consistency. I’ve been fairly regular on a few themes for the blog this summer but honestly…I am a bit bored. I don’t ALWAYS want to post about music on Mondays. I don’t ALWAYS want to make Thursdays be a short story or a story excerpt etc. Also, there are certain things that take far more time to create content for. Mr. Darcy and the Bewitched Sisters and Tempting Scandal should be posted in more than 500 word excerpts. Does that mean I will have more than 500 words ready each week? No. Instead, I’ll be rotating a few options. I’m still deciding on the schedule but it will be consistent. One Friday a month will be Mr. Darcy and the Bewitched Sisters. I hope to have a new chapter per post. If not, a new scene–which previously would take two to four weeks to post–will be available. On the other Fridays, there will be other options. You get the drift.
So, this Monday is Monday Motivation. Music Monday is not gone forever, just getting spaced out a bit. Here’s some motivation for the week for you.
“You will be exactly as happy as you decide to be.” I truly believe this is the key to happiness and success in life. I didn’t always understand what it meant. Happiness is one of the few things in life you have direct control over. Can things try to influence it? Can you momentarily feel any other number of emotions? Definitely! But you can choose to be happy.
I am not criticizing people struggling with depression or grief. I’m using happiness as the antithesis of sad or discontent. If your life isn’t what you want it to be, what can you do to change it? What will make you happy? Plot out what you need to do to make it happen–then do it! And along the way, be happy.
On the other hand, if you do have depression or are struggling with grief, please know you are not alone. There are infinite resources on the internet that can give you a community. Seek help from trained therapists and professionals. It is not a weakness to admit you need assistance. It makes you brave as so many stay silent.
You deserve the best life. You HAVE the best life. It’s yours and the only one you’ve got so be happy whether the sun is shining or there’s a storm that has ruined all your plans.
I don’t know if I’ve shared this image and quote before, but I think about it a lot. With everything going on in the world, I still believe in the goodness of people.
A boy from my church is undergoing testing on his liver. His blood isn’t clotting right, and his liver and spleen are enlarged. It means he has to quit playing on the football team, which means the world to him. Friday night was the first game of the season. He stood on the side lines as a coach. Afterwards, both teams gathered around and prayed for him.
I’m sure there were some kids on the team that don’t believe in God. I’m sure there were people in the stands that didn’t either. Whether they prayed or not, doesn’t matter so much. The point is, they had been rivals on a field of play but still banded together to care about one of their own. Each one of those players were able to think about how hard it would be on them to give up the sport they love so much. Every person in the stands was able to think about how hard it would be on them if their loved one was going through this. And if they disagreed with the mode that the concern was expressed, they remained respectful. Maybe they prayed to their God(s) by a different name. Maybe they just sent good thoughts. Maybe they didn’t care one way or the other, but they recognized it was very serious for others. No riots broke out. No one pulled out signs to protest. No one shouted at another, trying to force their understanding of the world down another’s throat.
This to me proves the goodness in people. We can be different and coexist. We can be different and respect one another. We can be different and love.
Do you have a story of seeing the good in humanity?
My husband’s out of town for a week. The first of many such trips. It’s a lot easier with my mom living with us than it used to be but still, I’m going to need this reminder this week. I can do anything. And so can you! What would you do if you could do anything in the world?
In case you can’t read the font, this says “Inhale confidence, exhale doubt.” And I think this is such a powerful message. Surround yourself with people that help you find confidence. They’re like a breath of fresh air. I’d be nowhere without my supportive family and friends! I’d still be in a prison of my own making breathing the dank, stale air of self-doubt.
I’m privileged to be interviewed on DarcyandLizzy.com this week. Strangely, too many are under the assumption that I’m Super Woman. Not hardly! But it’s been amazing to consider how I started as a reader and am now releasing my fourteenth original work and celebrate my three year published author anniversary next week. I don’t feel like Super Woman. I don’t feel like I’ve got life together. However, I am proud of where I came from. Three years ago when I published my first book, I never would have thought I’d have gone through it so many more times. I still remember posting my first story on a forum, and I couldn’t believe I plucked the courage to do that!
I had zero confidence. To me, I was a failure. At everything. I had a college degree–that took an extra year to complete because I dropped out a few times–with an unimpressive GPA and a lot of debt. I gave up on my master’s degree and had no idea what to do with my life. We had declared bankruptcy, foreclosed on our house, and just had our second (and unexpected) child. What idiot doesn’t know how to prevent pregnancy? It didn’t matter that I had been infertile for years. People just saw someone who couldn’t afford another child mooching off the system with WIC. I was living in my father in law’s basement. In fact, my bed was in the furnace room! I typed most of my stories sitting on my bed, crouched over the laptop, unable to move without waking a child in either direction. I was convinced I was the worst mother and wife on the planet.
I’ve come a long way. A very, very, very long way. I don’t mean the fact that now we live in a lovely home and can pay our bills. I mean that I have confidence in me. Throw what you will at me, and I think I can overcome it. I don’t think I’m Super Woman or even the average woman. However, I no longer think I’m ruining everything I touch. Did it come with my first book? No. Did
Did it come with my first book? No. Did it come with the first story I posted? No. I still have insecurities. I still fear rejection and failure. It came, little by little and piece by piece. Every day is a new fight to enjoy the day and focus on the good. And today, I indulge myself just a moment and remember where I came from and pat myself on my back. I’ve done well!
What are some things you’re proud of?
This may be one of my favorite quotes ever. Believing that I am worthy of love no matter my flaws has been my most freeing state of mind. And it is a state of mind. I’ve got to remind myself of it, sometimes daily, but it is crucial to my mental health. This includes allowing me to love myself.