If you follow me on Social Media, especially Facebook, then you’ll know that my husband has been traveling a lot for work lately. I’m so totally over it. It’s good for him professionally, and basically, just something we have to deal with right now until his next store is ready (we’re in a contract so we would have to pay back the company if he quit) so I’m trying to deal with it. But the solo parenting is driving me nuts.
The truth is I love my kids, but I don’t always like them.
I don’t like the way they behave better for pretty much anyone else.
I don’t like that I have to answer every single question and split up fights.
I don’t like that I have to be the one to enforce all the rules and dole out punishment.
I don’t like how much I resort to bribery for good behavior.
I don’t like that I have to do all the dishes, laundry, cleaning, packing lunches & backpacks, dressing, re-dressing, wiping butts, scrubbing hands, making meals, remaking meals.
I don’t like how at this moment neither one of them are staying in their bed.
I don’t even really like how my daughter climbs in my bed almost every night and snuggles so close to me I can’t move and am in danger of falling off the bed. Oh, and she makes me sweat.
Despite all this, one smile, hug, or kiss from them reminds me of all the reasons I love them. Even when they’re doing nothing “right,” I love them because they’re mine and they love me and forgive me of all my mistakes too, and that’s true love.
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It is so hard! When my daughter was 3 and my son 1 my husband decided he didn’t really want small children as they were too much of a tie so he left. Then apart from a couple of holidays and the occasional day out with him their upbringing was left to me. I must admit I sometimes was so frustrated that I would lock myself in my bedroom but mostly they were good. At least they didn’t throw tantrums while out as they knew I meant it when I said I couldn’t afford to buy them anything so it was no use asking! Anyway they are now 39 & 36 with their own families and I am so proud of them. Make the most of your children while they are young as they grow up far too quickly and I hope your husband is soon back home.
Oh, I feel your pain. Hubby was military and would be away for MONTHS. I had two boys a little over a year apart and there were times…. I found I had to learn inventive ways to curb their behaviour, I employed reverse psychology (a LOT) and can point you in the direction of the best cleaner to get blood out of the carpet. This too shall pass. My sons are now grown with children of their own. Trust me – they’ll get theirs….
Yes, this too will past and then it is memories so make them as sweet as possible. I have to doctor for 6 years to be able to have my first child so grab the love with both arms. They grow up so quickly.